Breaking up is hard to do. But the truth about love is, it hurts. More often than not, it hurts even more if you stay in the relationship so you decide to break up.
Searching for true love is a frustrating journey.. either you’re married or single. If you’re married, maybe you keep asking this to yourself, ‘Why can’t my husband/wife appreciate my effort to make this marriage work?’. Single people would think, ‘I just want to meet the person who understands me, who appreciates me and loves me unconditionally’ or ‘I don’t want to commit to anyone, because I don’t want to get hurt then my effort will go to waste’. But love hurts! No matter how happy you are in a relationship or how wise you are about it, eventually the person you love will hurt you.
I think there are 2 major reasons why couples break up
1) When there’s no love in the relationship
2) When you love someone so much and the person you love hurt you too much, so you can’t bear with the pain anymore and break up. But, I believe breaking up is a wise thing to do for whatever reason you want to break up. Of course it hurts, no matter how much you understand the benefit of separation, it still hurt you at least in the beginning. So how breaking up can benefit your relationship?
1) When there’s no love in the relationship
So you’ve been with your partner for sometime, you see each other every day. You do the same old thing every day. You know your partner inside out, it makes you lose interest, the love is not growing.. infact it’s dying… so you need to do something more challenging.. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fan. You want to get off the border and explore new things. You are just curious about what you’re going to find out
Then you break up with your partner and become single again. You start to go out and date other people. It’s lots of fun in the beginning because it’s a new thing to you. I can’t deny that you may meet a new and great partner. You must be lucky if you do. But most likely, it doesn’t happen. Eventually, you will realize that what you truly searching for is true love. When the fun is over, you begin to feel the emptiness inside and begin to miss what you left behind, the person who loves you for who you are… So the love that you thought was dying actually still there. You just didn’t know it, the reason is because people don’t appreciate what they have until it’s gone.
2) When you love someone so much and the person you love hurt you too much, so you can’t bear with the pain anymore and break up
Love hurts… the truth is everybody is going to hurt you. In reality, the closer you are to someone, the easier it is to hurt them. So you’ve been hurt, you can’t take the pain anymore and break up.
After the break up, you will have more time alone. You can surely make yourself busy in order to distract yourself from thinking about the pain. But you can’t help thinking about it when you’re alone especially at nights before you go to bed. You may not be able to sleep.. You think, ‘How could he/she do that to me? If someone loves me, he/she wouldn’t hurt me like that’. After days of sleepless nights and thinking hard.. you may find the answers by yourself, one question leads to another question.. until you ask… ‘Why did he/she hurt me? May be because he/she was hurt too..’ You know, you think this way because you care about someone so much.. It makes you realize that you hurt that person too.. So you admit your mistake and you want to correct it.. Then you start to think about the sweet things that person did for you.. and the reason you fell in love with him/her. The urge of wanting to be with that person again will lead to forgiveness. You will forgive that person because you want to experience the sweet love again. Love comes back again and you’re back together, that makes you a new and better person who is ready to improve things in the relationship. At the same time, you also get to know your partner a level deeper. And you may not realize this if you’re still together.
So the conclusion is, if you love someone, set them free.. If they come back they’re yours forever. If they don’t come back, it’s just not meant to be.. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t love you.. or someone who is unsure whether he/she loves you? But 90% of couples who break up do get back together and love each other even more after the separation. Those who don’t get back together found a new and better life that they might not discover if they stayed in the relationship. So, whether you get back together or not, it doesn’t matter. What matters is how much that had changed yourself to be a better and stronger person.
---> this is not mine. I just saw this from the Internet. And somehow.. I agree to all the things mentioned on this article :) hahaha.. I can say na
"MAY CHANCE PA!" ;)
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